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Princeton, NJ, United States, 2009/01/09 - Unique approach reduces stress, ensures privacy and provides substantial financial savings over traditional attorney-driven divorces - NJDivorceMediationblog.com.
With so many high profile celebrity divorces in the news lately and the New Year upon us, the subject has been on everybody’s mind. Famous athletes and celebrities racking up millions of dollars in legal bills, airing copious amounts of dirty laundry and publicly humiliating themselves and their partners in the process have left many wondering: is there a better way? Equitable Mediation Services of New Jersey thinks there is.
“People don’t realize you can resolve all of the issues required for your divorce with the help of one mediator and not go through all the hassle and expense of hiring two attorneys to battle it out for you” says Joseph Dillon, President of Equitable Mediation Services. “By hiring one professional instead of two you make decisions in real time and save at least $20,000 and possibly more in the process.”
Mediation is a concept that has been around for thousands of years but is just gaining traction as a way to divorce for many New Jersey couples. The passage of the NJ Uniform Mediation Act which established standards of practice for mediators and mediation as well as the ability to file a “no-fault” divorce passed in January of 2007 have helped couples get through what is often referred to as the second most traumatic life event other than the death of a spouse.
“We’re not advocating divorce by any means but we do recognize that if the decision to divorce has been made by a couple, we should try to make it as straightforward and peaceful as possible. That’s why we give our clients the choice of holding sessions in the marital home or in one of our six central New Jersey offices. We feel if we can make them both comfortable, we can reduce anxiety and come to a better agreement in less time.”
Naturally when people are in high conflict situations, they may not be thinking past their own self-interests and forget about the well being of their children. Mediation has been shown to be much more effective on minimizing the impact of divorce on children than litigated divorces. And while it may not be apparent to the divorcing parties at the time, not focusing on their children during the process can have dire consequences on future behavior and relationships.
“I can show you studies that prove children of parents who had civilized divorces not only exhibit fewer behavioral problems in the future but had better relationships with their parents as well. It may be an obvious statement but children emulate the behaviors they see in their parents and if the parents don’t handle conflict in a civil and respectful manner, then their children won’t either. And is that really the kind of role model you want to be for your kids?”
Equitable Mediation (equitablemediation.com) serves clients in Somerset, Mercer, Middlesex and Hunterdon counties with offices in Bernards, Bridgewater, East Brunswick, Lawrenceville, Piscataway and Princeton. We offer a free consultation either in the martial home or in one of our six area offices and welcome any opportunity to help divorcing couples through our free consultations, contemplating divorce support groups and blog.