Many people think you need a partner to have romance in your life, but it isn't so! "Romance is mental as well as physical," says life & career expert Alison Blackman Dunham aka "Advice Sister Alison."
Here are some great, easy ways to enhance romance, every day: Light up your life! Candles, scented or not, are a seductive way to relax and enjoy the end of the day when the sun has set. The soft, flickering light makes any room romantic. Try tall tapers on your dinner table to add a special touch to any meal, even if you are dining alone. If you are worried about fire hazards, try one of the new, battery operated candles. They look especially realistic when placed in a colored glass votive holder.
Dress for love and romance! When you dress in clothes you love, you just feel better. Even if your bathrobe or sweat pants are comfy, they're depressing and definitely not a way to enhance romance. If you like to dress for comfort, select items that are in sexy, touchable fabrics such as cashmere, velvet, silk and high-quality cotton.
Color your world. Colors evoke emotion and send subtle messages as well. Red, for example, is the color of blood, the heart, love. It is also the color of good fortune in some countries, but the color of loss, in others. Red can be attention grabbing or threatening, depending upon the tone and intensity. Blue is the color of status and rank (eg. winning the blue ribbon). It can signal sadness (eg. feeling blue") or optimism ("blue skies). Pick the ones that best express your romantic inner self. For a more detailed description of how color can effect your life, your mood, and others, read "Find Your Color" in Chapter 7 (your Image) in The Everything Dating Book 2nd Edition by Alison Blackman Dunham.
Make home a palace! Does your home look like a hovel because you don't expect any visitors, ever? Make your living space one that you love to be in, and that someone you love will want to be in as well! Paint or fix ugly furniture. Buy new sheets or replace your threadbare bath towels with the thick and soft type found in luxury hotels. These items will make you feel sensuous and decadent every day!
Music, Maestro! Romantic music makes you feel sexy, so keep the CD player full of great music. Classics romantic crooners are a good example (eg. Barry White, Johnny Mathis, Ertha Kitt, and Frank Sinatra) and so are the classics (eg. Liszt, Chopin, Vivaldi..) but if Britney Spears, Queen Latifah, or Spizz Energi make your heart race, play them, too...and often!
Flowers for Every Day. Flowers brighten your environment and lift your mood. But don't wait for someone else to bring them. Both men and women deserve the uplifting beauty of flowers so buy them yourself, often, and luxuriate in the joy they bring.
Treat all your senses. The warm growl of a cat's purr, a good meal (even if it is just for one), nice wine (not the jug stuff) "just because," hosting casual get-togethers with friends on a regular basis, beautiful things that remind you of places you've been and people you love...life is too short to ignore all the little things that are good in life. Keep love alive in your heart and in your mind, and you'll enhance romance, every single day.
About Alison Blackman Dunham
(Aka. "Advice Sister Alison.") is a life & career expert, personal public relations consultant, author, and advice columnist. She is the creator of the Advice Sisters "Great Relationships" websites: advicesisters.net, and advicesisters.com. The Advice Sisters have been credited with bringing the advice/information genre, online, as described in the academic textbook: Marriage and Family Experience: Relationships Changing Society 8th Edition by Bryan Strong, Christine DeVault, Theodore F. Cohen (Thompson-Wadsworth,2004). Alison is the author of: The Everything Dating Book, 2nd Edition (Adams Media, 2005), and co-author of: RECRUITING LOVE - Using The Business Skills You Have to Find the Love You Want (Cyclone Books, 1998). She is a contributing author in: How To Survive Dating by Mark W. Bernstein (Hundreds of Heads Books, Inc., 2004) and The Last Job Search Guide You'll Ever Need - How to Find and Get the Job or Internship of Your Dreams (Astonishing Job Search Secrets Of The Most Experienced...Most Knowledgeable... And Most Respected Career Experts In The World) compiled by Steven J. Rothberg (CollegeRecruiter.com Books, 2002). She has written four self-help E-books on social behavior, singles and dating, and wedding dilemmas and created/starred in "Making New Connections," a series of 5 compact disks about improving sociability. She writes theThe Advice Sisters® unique, signature "Double-Take" two views (head & heart) advice columns and the acclaimed "Ask Alison"- Managing Your Life & Career Column.
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